A Little Food for Thought

Support is a strange thing. There is ‘verbal, going-through-the-motions’ support and there is SUPPORT. 

I experienced a ton of SUPPORT right after my launch. Boat loads of excited, loving, rah-rah texts, social media messages, and even a few amazing, out-of-the-blue calls. 

People I’ve not connected with for years reached out with abandon, with no thought or concern  of time or distance. It felt amazing. It made me tingle with a feeling of really being alive… almost like a zing – a wake up call – that I did actually have a community, present or not, who were in full support of this journey I decided to embark on. 

It was such an unexpected twist… a win for my soul.

But then there was the ‘verbal, going-through-the-motions’ support… from people who I assumed would be in SUPPORT…. And it leaves me with an odd feeling that I just can’t put my finger on. 

Kind of like if you started a new job and your family – your closest peeps – decide to not rally in support of the undertaking you were about to embark on…or even decided to remain silent. Either way, they didn’t offer up much at all. 

That kind of support doesn’t feel swell for me. It kinda blows, if I am honest. It almost feels like they don’t want me to succeed.

I believe myself to be a giver. Whether in my head or not, this is what I believe. And as a giver, I have a difficult time comprehending NOT being in full support of something like this… or not even like this at all… hell, someone can say, “I don’t know how to do blank…” and my brain starts to whirl with ways I can possibly help them succeed in whatever… LITERALLY WHATEVER.

“So what’s the point, Bays?”

The point is — consider SUPPORTING your people regardless of your own possible insecurities around them winning at something. Support them in finding new ways to be better, get better, do better. Support them even when you may be jealous at where they are headed, or even if you find yourself scared that they may leave your life if they become something other than mediocre. Fuel their desire to want to improve… and truly cheer them on when they try to kick some ass in life. 

Let’s all celebrate each other. Let’s help each other become better, be a success story, and live more enriched lives. 

As I finish up this little food for thought post, I am struck with two things: the reality that this may not even be seen by those who I am speaking to… and maybe I should take a closer look to see who I may not be showing up for.

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Awesome new read courtesy of Akarns. Thanks a million for always having my back, momma!